The vagaries of love and despair keep our lives in high drama, don’t they? And man! if we could just figure out how to crack the code on healthy, peaceful coupling, we’d have it made. Many times, my clients come to me in the midst of a tangled, painful relationship that has gone septic, or they are in heartbreak hell and trying to conduct a postmortem on the relationship.
I have a naturally optimistic view of love, relationships, and the abundant opportunities …
Many times, clients will come into my practice and, though they don’t know each other, there will be the same general issue going on with all of them. Sometimes the main problem is lack of faith in themselves, or unresolved anger from the past, or spiritual malaise. During one patch of time in 2011, the trend was repeat heartbreak from choosing crappy partners. Both the guys and the girls in my practice seemed to be struggling with this. One Saturday I sat down and thought,”If I could give them …
She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She …
When I first started my business, I was working at a glam PR firm in New York City. I was paid to go to fashion shows, send handsome leather boots to Bradley Cooper, and organize racks of frothy, French lingerie. It was fun, and exciting, made me feel zingy-cool. But my heart longed to coach, and write, and help broken hearts heal. Longed.
On the daily at the PR firm, and on the streets of New York, and in airports across …
A love affair imparts adventure, not merely because it is unsanctioned and risky, but because it proceeds on part-knowledge, like all creative endeavor. And it is risked because the longing to find home is one of the sharpest hungers a human can know. For this a man gives up an empire and sails the open sea….
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Part of falling in love is the heady blend of familiarity and strangeness. Here is someone at once so like you that you have come home, and yet so different …
What is the difference between the guy who constantly disappoints you on purpose and the guy who constantly disappoints you unintentionally?
Nothing.
Ladies – what is going on that you are putting up with being constantly disappointed? It does not matter if he meant to or not – if he’s incapable of loving you the way you desire to be loved, then it DOES NOT MATTER if he’s doing it intentionally or unintentionally. Stop categorizing.
You being constantly disappointed is a dealbreaker. End of story.
I …
Last June I decided to take a year off from dating and romantic relationships. It was one of the most ballsy, scary decisions I’ve ever made, but after spending my entire adult life either married or in relationships, I knew that I had to do something radical in order to bust out of the pattern I was in and learn something new about myself.
A yearrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
Oh yeah. I went cold turkey. After the first few rocky months of love detox and hugging my cat a …
Love is so important. We want to give and receive love, and we want it to be healthy. We want to be in life-long relationships where problems get worked out, communication fosters intimacy, and our sexual desires are met. This is all good stuff.
We live in a time of self-improvement and expanded human potential. If you are a woman, you have been reading articles about how to improve this and enhance that since you were a teenager. And right after our bodies, the target for improvement has been our …
No to the man who has a woman at home, but still tries to have you.
No to the man who doesn’t call when he says he will.
No to the man who refuses to figure out what he can contribute to the world.
No to the man who has unresolved anger toward his mom or ex.
No to the man who is hard to locate.
No to the man who is shady in his business dealings.
No to the man who starves you with very little communication or time together to keep you wanting …
This is #3 in the Series: 5 Daily Questions
Why are the 5 daily questions important? I wrote about that here.
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For me, security means setting up my life up to handle a range of scenarios… Scenarios that might include fluctuations in client work, last-minute change of direction, …
This is #2 in the series: 5 Daily Questions
Why are the 5 daily questions important? I wrote about that here.
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How do I determine what my Six Big Rocks are going to be every day?
I go through 5 daily questions.
I used to have a daily to-do list that was eating me alive. It had 20-25 things on it and never seemed to shrink. …
What will make me feel proud today?
What will make me feel secure?
What work needs to be done (tasks) so I can feel peaceful?
What is the life I really want?
What is the next best thing to do?
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Lately I’ve been getting up around 5:30 a.m.
Every morning I run …
Lately, I’ve become incredibly aware that I have permission to design my life however I want.
It first started when I quit my PR job in New York City to launch my business. What gave me the balls to do that before I had an actual……. ahem, PLAN?
The stone cold, stubborn belief that I am infinitely creative and the designer of my own beautiful life. And trusting that the creativity living inside me could come up with a kick-ass strategy to make it happen.
You have the …
There was a long period of my life where things were very routine and dependable. Life had a lovely cadence: coffee in the morning with hubby, kids to school by 9, run on the beach afterward, grocery shopping at the farmers market, school board meeting, dinner at six. Church was on Sunday. Friends came once a month for game night. In-laws every other year for Christmas. There were 3 gorgeous kids, a husband, roses in the garden, a picket fence, and Suburban in the driveway. It went …
Sometimes life requires you to be a bad ass broad. As in, take a look at the craziness surrounding you, pull that shit together, and HANDLE IT.
Who is the Bad Ass Broad?
She doesn’t tolerate drama, whether it’s her own or another’s. She lives in the real world, so there is always going to be craziness to contend with. But she recognizes it early and pulls the plug.
She’s self-possessed and commands her space in the room. Her confidence is strong, but quiet. …
