Many times, clients will come into my practice and, though they don’t know each other, there will be the same general issue going on with all of them. Sometimes the main problem is lack of faith in themselves, or unresolved anger from the past, or spiritual malaise. During one patch of time in 2011, the trend was repeat heartbreak from choosing crappy partners. Both the guys and the girls in my practice seemed to be struggling with this. One Saturday I sat down and thought,”If I could give them …
We’re talking about self love a lot lately. Thank goodness, because we sure weren’t talking about it when I was growing up. It integrates into almost every conversation I’m having with my colleagues, clients, and friends these days. And as big topics go, sometimes things can get a little skewed and dysmorphic as we seek to understand and apply the principles.
Straight up: I think loving yourself is very, very important. It makes you a more solid, happy, centered person. Self love can help you take …
I’m participating in Shaytember and working on a personal goal to run 10 miles by Thanksgiving. This is going to be quite a feat, given that I have just been able to reach the one mile mark, huffing, puffing, lungs exploding. There is a special reason why I’m taking on this personal conquest. I explain here (Make a dream happen by picking a bigger problem).
Each day in September I am running 1 mile to prepare myself habitually to run and train in …
So I wasn’t gonna post a video until October, when I hopefully felt more confident. But I woke up this morning and said eff it-I’m doing it today. ) haha!
I love you guys! Gonna go run one mile.
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When I first started my business, I was working at a glam PR firm in New York City. I was paid to go to fashion shows, send handsome leather boots to Bradley Cooper, and organize racks of frothy, French lingerie. It was fun, and exciting, made me feel zingy-cool. But my heart longed to coach, and write, and help broken hearts heal. Longed.
On the daily at the PR firm, and on the streets of New York, and in airports across …
A love affair imparts adventure, not merely because it is unsanctioned and risky, but because it proceeds on part-knowledge, like all creative endeavor. And it is risked because the longing to find home is one of the sharpest hungers a human can know. For this a man gives up an empire and sails the open sea…. . . .
Part of falling in love is the heady blend of familiarity and strangeness. Here is someone at once so like you that you have come home, and yet so different …
This is what life does. It throws its arm around you when your pregnant with your first kid and says “Hey Sugar. I know you’re all concerned with your swollen ankles and stuff, but we’ve got bigger fish to fry.” With only 8 weeks of pregnancy to go, I got this sudden, gut intuitive hit that I should go au naturel with my birth. Epidural-free.
Crazy, I know. It seemed preposterous to me too. I was not a “granola type.” I was deathly afraid of pain and had no idea …
What is the difference between the guy who constantly disappoints you on purpose and the guy who constantly disappoints you unintentionally?
Nothing.
Ladies – what is going on that you are putting up with being constantly disappointed? It does not matter if he meant to or not – if he’s incapable of loving you the way you desire to be loved, then it DOES NOT MATTER if he’s doing it intentionally or unintentionally. Stop categorizing.
You being constantly disappointed is a dealbreaker. End of story.
Some time ago, in the middle of the night, I landed in New York. I had 2 suitcases, a twenty dollar bill, some credit cards, and a high school diploma procured in the eighties. I didn’t know a soul, except for the nice recruiter man who had promised me a job interview Monday morning.
This is a (sorta) cool story for a freshly sprung college grad in their twenties. But I wasn’t. I was a 40-year-old single woman with three teenagers, starting over. And …
Last June I decided to take a year off from dating and romantic relationships. It was one of the most ballsy, scary decisions I’ve ever made, but after spending my entire adult life either married or in relationships, I knew that I had to do something radical in order to bust out of the pattern I was in and learn something new about myself.
A yearrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
Oh yeah. I went cold turkey. After the first few rocky months of love detox and hugging my cat a …
If you want to live a life that’s courageous, you’ve got to stretch, and to stretch means: When I can’t, I must. Every time you say, “I can’t do it,” you’re going to immediately say, “I must do it.” This is simple idea. I heard it first at age 16 from a close family friend named Art Williams. He said, “If you find yourself saying I can’t do something, but you know it in your heart of hearts that if …
Love is so important. We want to give and receive love, and we want it to be healthy. We want to be in life-long relationships where problems get worked out, communication fosters intimacy, and our sexual desires are met. This is all good stuff.
We live in a time of self-improvement and expanded human potential. If you are a woman, you have been reading articles about how to improve this and enhance that since you were a teenager. And right after our bodies, the target for improvement has been our …
I started my day with coffee and the book Ask and It Is Givenby Jerry and Esther Hicks. Chapter 4 is How Can I Get There From Here? and in answer to the question, ‘Why is it taking me so long to get what I want?’ they write:
It is not because you do not want it enough. It is not because you are not intelligent enough. It is not because you are not worthy enough. It is not because fate is against you. It …
“To every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” -Newton’s third law of motion
SO. I’m humming along through January like all you guys, full of ideas and new projects, and the third law of motion is starting to show up. The push-back.
This causes an emotional reaction, because it feels like I’m being stopped. When resistance shows up, it can feel like your goal is too hard, ill-conceived, or ultimately going to fail.
The belief that we are being stopped by outside forces is …
“This is what life does. It lets you walk up to the store to buy breakfast and the paper, on a stiff knee. It lets you choose the way you have your eggs, your coffee. Then it sits a fisherman down beside you at the counter who says, ’Last night, the channel was full of starfish.’ And you wonder, is this a message, finally, or just another day?”
-Eleanor Lerman, Starfish
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