Have you recently made an attempt to better yourself or make positive changes in your life and things have turned into one crazy hot mess??
Well darling, pour yourself a glass of wine (or green juice) and breathe. This is completely normal. Whenever you are about to take an amazing “next step” in your life like, start your own business, graduate from college, leave a bad relationship, plunge into a new romance, take a big project at work, go vegetarian, stand up to your mother, you can count on DRAMA to show up.
If change can sniff out any fear in you, it will hit you with a big ol’ drama bomb, leaving you all, “New beginning wha??”
Drama looks like a big fight with your sister right before you’re about to have that heart-to-heart with your mom.
Drama looks like the raging flu two days before you’re going to run your first marathon.
Drama looks like your ex-boyfriend calling you, as soon as you start falling for the amazing (non-cheating, non-asshole) new guy.
Drama looks like over-exercising at the gym and popping mouthfuls of amphetamine appetite suppressants as soon as you hit your first fitness plateau.
Drama looks like www.roth-IRA.com turning into a $2,000.00 www.MichaelKors.com spree the day you pay off all your credit cards.
Drama looks like a lovely date night with your husband that ends with three glasses of red wine and Ambien because you guys have decided to try for a baby.
Drama looks like constant fighting with your sixteen year old daughter when she gets asked to the prom (you sat home for all your dances).
Drama knows your track record. Drama sounds so right and logical (the economy is bad, the new guy is sorta boring, your ass does look hot in those $200 jeans). Drama feels amazing and Drama acts like your advocate. Drama is an entertaining, sarcastic smart-ass when it needs to be, and oh-so clever. Drama is POP-u-lar!
How the heck do I know so much about drama? Oh, please. Until recently, I was the worst kind of drama queen: The nice girl who had bad shit constantly happening to her. No one could really put their finger on what the problem might be. Oh no? Another crisis? How could this be? I seemed too smart, too wise, and too shit-together for all this crap to be constantly besieging my life. If I had a nickel for every loving person who said to me “You deserve better than this, Stephanie” I would have geysers of cash spurting out my ears.
But really? I let Drama in the door because I was afraid. I didn’t really know how to move into the next chapter of life with confidence, because my confidence was grossly under-developed. Instead, I got my self-esteem stroked from overcoming dramatic situations. I was too scared to be truthful about my REAL feelings and REAL thoughts, so I found myself hiding out in high-drama distractions and compromises.
You may be able to relate. Are you sick of drama and the exhaustion associated with it? Are you tired of being a hot mess? Really tired of it? Because no one is going to hand you a permission slip to get your act together. You’re going to have to do it yourself.
As Maya Angelou said, “When you know better, you do better.” Make this your mantra, sister.
Once you’re really DONE with drama, take a deep breath and square your shoulders. You are about to become a Bad Ass Broad.
With a wink,
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