But I Don’t Wanna…

The Energy Suck of Resistance

I was recently asked a very common question by one of my students in the 7 Miracles Project. I prescribe taking one inspired action step a day toward your dreams and goals. But sometimes we get paralyzed, our productivity starts waning, and our grand hallucinations of what life should be don’t exactly, ahem, match up to “reality.” Here is my one rule for how you can DOUBLE your productivity, in spite of the vagaries of passion and despair that alight upon your daily life.

 

QUESTION.

Why is it the words “Take 1 inspired action” create a mental block? I read those words and my mind goes blank but the feeling is that I am standing at the base of a very big hill and instead of starting to climb, I want to sit down. It makes me feel lazy.

 

ANSWER.
So here’s the deal. Whenever we get inspired to move forward, resistance is right there with us. Resistance tells us it’s too hard, too boring, too long, too much. Resistance makes it feel like you’re walking uphill in mud. But it is an illusion, so don’t be its sucker!

 

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I have a rule that I honor every morning when I wake up:
No emotional voting on things that have been decided.

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I said I was going to exercise 4 times this week? No emotional voting on whether I ‘feel’ like it or not. I already know that exercising is in alignment with my value around feeling healthy, strong, and happy and those are the feelings I’m going to honor. Period. End of story. Remember: BABY steps! A baby step can be: peruse Pinterest for 20 minutes and find 2 healthy recipes (if you want to eat cleaner); do 5 lunges and 10 squats on a commercial break (if you want to exercise daily); spend 30 minutes reading about home-based businesses (if you want to start your own); go on a 20-minute neighborhood nature walk with your kids (if you’ve been dealing with mom-guilt for being immersed in work).

I HIGHLY recommend getting Steven Pressfield’s book, Do The Work. It is terrific! Here are his Resistance’s Greatest Hits.

The following is a list, in no particular order, of those activities that most commonly elicit Resistance:

1. The pursuit of any calling in writing, painting, music, film, dance, or any creative art, however marginal.

2. The launching of any entrepreneurial venture or enterprise, for profit or otherwise.

3. Any diet or health regimen.

4. Any program of spiritual advancement.

5. Any activity whose aim is the acquisition of chiseled abdominals.

6. Any course or program designed to overcome an unwholesome habit or addiction.

7. Education of every kind.

8. Any act of political, moral, or ethical courage, including the decision to change for the better some unworthy pattern of thought or conduct in ourselves.

9. The undertaking of any enterprise or endeavor whose aim is to help others.

10. Any act that entails commitment of the heart – the decision to get married, to have a child, to weather a rocky patch in a relationship.

11. The taking of any principled stand in the face of adversity.

In other words, any act that rejects immediate gratification in favor of long-term growth, health, or integrity.

I think we can all relate. It also helps me to imagine that Ryan Gosling cares about my life choices.

 

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To spaciousness, choice, and sovereignty!

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Are you into stuff like this? I write about modern spirituality, love, communication, generosity, and how to run a sustainable small business (while keeping your sanity). Put yourself on the list and you’ll never miss and article or a workshop. xo

 

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    Comments

  • Dawn Dougherty


    great to hear. No emotional voting and not hurting Ryan. What more do I need? Thanks for the perspective

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