There will be days where you wish you knew what you really wanted in your life, but you don’t.
There will be days where you wish the other person in your life stopped and listened to you, but they won’t.
There will be days when you will come to the end of your strength, and all that’s left to do is cry. The next thing is forgive yourself.
There will be days when you feel your life is going nowhere, and you decide it’s time to change that.
There will be days where someone says something really hurtful about someone you love or care for and it will derail that relationship.
There will be days where some movie reminds you of the you that used to laugh and be joyful and you will shed a silent tear.
There will be days where you wished someone loved you, and yet they don’t.
There will be days where the smallest gesture from your child or a stranger will carry you sailing through the day.
There will be days where the thought of falling in love with someone will be the furthest thing from your mind, and you will.
There will be days that hold a surprise that you never saw coming. And it will change everything.
There will be days where you thought a friend was a true friend and you come to find out they have less to give than you thought.
There will be days where a person with a totally different vantage point in life will become your new, and deeply wonderful, lifelong friend.
There will be days when love makes requests of you and demands more than you think you’ve got to give, and you’ll do so unconditionally.
There will be days where someone expects more quality time, and your quality time will be spent quietly with yourself.
There will be days when you want to be loved more, and come to find out you are.
There will be days when you finally get it, and realize the relationship is truly over. You will feel mixed emotions of relief and regret but the long term memory of the relationship will help you be a better and more loving person in the future.
There will be days when you see something like the internet, once a miracle of exciting opportunity, is just a window to other souls who are fragile, some flawed. You will come to realize this is not the single venue for your long-term growth, and you will have mixed emotions about this.
There will be days when you walk outside, see a hidden glimpse of beauty, a butterfly landing on a flower, a duckling trying to keep up with his family in the pond…and you will know your eyes were the only ones that ever saw that single act of beauty and you will be renewed.
Every life holds many days. We walk through ourselves, meeting robbers, ghosts, giants, old men, young men, wives, widows, brothers-in-love. But always meeting ourselves.
These are YOUR days.
And how you chose to filter what happens in any given day is a choice you, and you alone, make.
You have that awesome power.
Enjoy this day.
Blue skies,
Steph xo
I was inspired to write this post from a poem of an anonymous writer named Eros. I love when the thoughts from other souls inspire. xo
Comments
Cher
Steph,
This is such a beautiful reminder to appreciate each moment exactly as it is, and that’s so easy to forget when caught up in the thick of life.
Thanks to Otiti & her amazing Live Raw, Fiery & Bold academy for pointing me to this article & your gorgeous site.
XO
Otiti
I remember the first time I read this; the words resonated in every fibre of my being. You have a gift, Stephanie; you get right to the heart of the matter and feel our pain + humanity with us. And more importantly, you speak of hope and beauty and love in such vividly stirring language. Thank you for this. xoxo
Steph
Otiti…thank you my sweet friend! Your words light up my heart. I’m glad you’re here! xo
Nick
“There will be days when you want to be loved more, and come to find out you ”
This is the second time I have ended up on your site. Once about a year ago, and to my pleasant surprise, right now through @Goodwomanproj . I loved the perspective you wrote from, and I am grateful for the perspective it then gave me. Thank you Stephanie St.Claire.
#blissbombed #sohotrightnow
Steph
Nick! Thank you for the kind words. I’m so happy our paths have crossed and my work has encouraged you. I’m a big fan of the Good Woman Project. Also loved your post, Open Letter to a Past Friend. Good stuff. Keep it up! : )
Ashley
This post has been my salvation. I am a new wife and mother of a 2 year old. i am seeing more and more of my mother in the way i handle my child and it breaks me a little every day. i am fighting to be a better parent than my example (not that i do not love my mother, i just want a different structure for my child), and i am fighting to make my marriage a strong one. build on a solid foundation. in a sense, i am trying to fix it before it breaks. again, neither of us have good examples for marriage, so we are kinda on our own.
but this post of yours, it reminds me that i am human, and i will fall, and there will be days that feel like hell on earth, but each morning brings a new beginning, and while what happened yesterday matters and will not change or go away, it is what we consciously decide to do with today that really matters.
so thank you for writing it. my mother-in-law introduced me to your blog and i have been drawn to it ever since.
Trisha
Today is in one of those days. Yestarday was too. I just found out that this whole time since the breakup and he has still been talking to me and seeing how I am and keeps saying he loves me and cares about me…well he proposed to her 3 weeks after he broke up with me. He says he still wants to be friends and he tried to fully let go of me but he cant, that he is not strong enough. I feel like I have had “days” and though my head knows there is light at the end of the tunnel, my heart is in darkness. If he is so fulfilled and happy with her, why cant he let me go? These days…right now are filled with despair, but I keep reaching through, reading your old bologna and new site and your words like this one are really helping to get me through.
kirri
“Every life holds many days”. Oh my – thats smattering the air with truth this morning!
I just love your writing Steph…I look forward to every piece as a little gift of love, beauty and inner wisdom. I’m putting my hand up now for your book….there’s one coming right?!
Steph
Thank you Kirri…I’m definitely dancing with that idea : )
Linda
Timing is everything; or maybe it’s serendipity- I am writing in my journal , with intention this time , as I start into what will be my 60th year…..I have had many struggles in 2011 , some very good lessons and have decided that this will be my year to finally just be and stop trying so hard to be someone I am not….reading this is a timely gift!
Steph
I’m so glad Linda. I have a feeling this is going to be your best year…heck, best DECADE, yet. xo
erin
Today is my birthday. Am feeling very positive after reading this. Been thru a lot this last year. Thank you for writing this!
Steph
Happy Birthday Erin! xo Hooray!
Trisha Trixie
Thank you for your note the other day. Thank you for writing this. Thank you for caring about others. Thank you for being you.
I am healing and I know slowly it will be ok but right now it hurts like hell. This one really spoke to me because THIS, this is my life. There will be days…yes…and I will go on with them.
Steph
Putting loving arms around you Trisha xo
Sarah L.
I just…I can’t tell you how much I needed to hear that. I’ve so often felt that I needed to fight some of things that you had written about, but really it’s about feeling them and accepting them. Thanks for what you’ve written.
Steph
Yes – you got it Sarah. One of the most powerful things I’ve learned lately is how to just BE with the feelings and not resist them, or transform them, or reframe them. Just BE. And to learn how to be sensitive to the right timing in moving on. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. xo
Sarah
Would you mind if I used this post on my blog? I’ll be sure to link it to your site and give you a shout out. If you’d rather I didn’t that’s totally okay, I’d just like to share this and how it made an impression on me.
Steph
Hi Sarah – Sure! Share away : ) I would be honored. xo
Lisa
Touching article
Steph
Thank you Lisa!
Kathy
All I can say is WOW!
There was soooo much in that post that spoke to me….thanks for sharing.
Sometimes I find myself alone witnessing these tiny little miracles and just smile.
Steph
You are very welcome Kathy! Glad you enjoyed it.
Amanda
EXACTLY what I needed to read today! Thank you!
Steph
You are welcome sweet Amanda!